To Lead or Not to Lead? That is the Question

influenceA leader is not the chief visionary. A leader is not the chief executive. A leader is someone who accepts the stress and strain of the present inconvenience of service in order to bring the ones he/she serves to fullness of destiny.

A leader works hard, sacrifices, is regularly criticized, and rarely rewarded; yet does not fall into functional atheism, which is the belief that ultimate responsibility for everything rests with him/her. He or she is someone who can bring Christ’s resurrection life out of a situation when others cannot. A leader is not necessarily  the most theologically correct, gifted, talented, or educated person who happens to fill a position.

A Christian leader is someone who is unalterably Christ-centered and who has ability to bring others into alignment with the person of Christ and the purposes of Christ in their life. A leader is someone psychologically, volitionally, and physically aligned and identified with Christ’s kingdom interests in others, not the leader’s self-interests in other people as commodities for his or her personal aggrandizement. A leader empowers others to eventually not need his or her leadership! The bond of love may remain, and gift exchange lasts until the second coming, but we are to outgrow dependency. A leader does not create nor require followers.

Reject every western-worldview stereotype of leadership that we get from our culture and the business world. What works on Madison Avenue is not designed for the kingdom. Ignore the oceans of material on “leadership” that are written from a business and organization perspective under the assumption that those values and methods translate into kingdom equivalencies. They do not. Reject every model of leadership that treats people like inferior subordinates–the mere fuel for a “leader’s” ambitions.

The only platform for kingdom leadership is relationship in family, among hearts that have been divinely assigned to one another and united in love. Period. There is no other. When divine assignment and unity in love are realized, it is amazing how little emphasis needs to be put on leadership to see it function marvelously. A bird that has to identify itself is not much of a bird. It simply gets on with doing what it was created to do, and anyone with a brain can look at it and say: “There goes a bird.” It’s the same with leadership. Those functioning in the grace will be recognized by those receiving the grace, and there need not be a lot of identificational talk and chatter: “I am the leader, submit to me,” sort of nonsense.

Leadership is a calling.[i] It is the gift and privilege of having influence upon others. If you are not called, you dare not lead, and if you are called, you dare not lead![ii] Do not let insecurity and desire for personal validation drive you to pursue leadership. If the only way you can feel good about yourself is when you lead, you probably ought not to lead. Your value and identity in Christ is the basis of mental well being, not what you can accomplish for Him through your gifts and talents. You must know who you are apart from what you can do, accomplish, or perform. If you have no sense of personhood apart from task, you belong under therapeutic care, not telling others how they should live. There is no surer way into the spiritual ditch than to engage in Christian leadership with unresolved psychological issues of personal identity.

In strictly “biblical” terminology a leader is simply someone who is a disciple of Christ him/herself, and by his/her example, makes other disciples. This is something we are all called to be and do. However, I think it is reactionary and naive to be in denial about basic human dynamics that are also kingdom dynamics. While we might all be called to be disciple-makers, it is self-evident that there are some who “go before” (Go first, Gr. proestimi) and are more effective at it than others, by the indwelling grace of God in them (Romans 12:7).

You may have had a bad church experience with leaders, and now, embrace a philosophy of: “There is no such thing as leadership.” That’s like trying to deny the laws of aviation just because you were in a plane crash and survived. A plane crash is an aberration. It is a mistake to normalize definitions and expectations based on aberration and dysfunction. Aberrant, dysfunctional, abusive leadership expressions do not negate what is clearly a gift from God, and a basic human reality. You just have to find someone who really loves you, whom you can love in return in a family of trust and mutual respect, and leadership will be self-evident.

  • I may not be an apostle to others, but doubtless, I am to you (1 Cor. 9:2): leadership function defined by familial relationship.
  • Follow me (emulate me) as I follow the Lord (2 Thess 3:7, 9, Gal 3:1, 1 Cor. 11:1, etc): leadership influence modeled incarnationally in the sphere of family relationship.

It’s that simple . . . and that costly.


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[i] There are different ways to view the matter of calling. At one level it can refer to the foreordained, sovereign, and irrevocable decision of God toward an individual that abides on him/her from cradle to grave. This is not what I mean. When it comes to leaders/elders I use the term to refer to the divine initiation toward and within an individual that energizes and activates individual will/desire, which in turn spurs to action to complete a divinely assigned task. Eldership is not a calling in the former definition, but it is in the latter. Being an elder or a leader in a positional/function/task sense is not necessarily an irrevocable lifetime calling. Individuals can “step in and out” of being an “elder.” For example, an elder can be removed, resign, retire, or take a sabbatical. Also an individual may be an elder in Church A, but should he geographically relocate, the same individual is not automatically an elder in Church B because of a residing “call” upon his life “to be an elder.” Much local church conflict could be avoided if this distinction were understood.

[ii] 1 Corinthians 9:16.

24 comments on “To Lead or Not to Lead? That is the Question

  1. That last sentence said it all…you just have to find someone who really loves you,whom you can love in return in a family of trust and mutual respect and leadership will be self-evident.

  2. THIS IS probably the most awesome, best and more realist information, truth, blog or whatever people term content on leadership I have ever heard as the baby in my womb leaped for joy through confirmation that I am on the right path of being a God-appointed leader who disciples, trains, and equips more leaders in my sphere of the music industry for the Kingdom of God. (Run on sentence of excitement!)

    I mean my personal revelation and definition of Kingdom leadership is very close to this, especially where you said, “Those functioning in the grace will be recognized by those receiving the grace, and there will not need to be a lot of identificational talk and chatter: “I am the leader, submit to me,” sort of nonsense.” The definition I have received from the Lord is not as long, but again pretty close! NICE! Totally love this and sharing this with MANY of the leaders in the Kingdom the Lord has led me to mentor and disciple into sonship.

  3. Excellent – there is a lot of muddle and fog surrounding the issue of leadership in the “organic” church world. I have wrestled with the issue of leadership over the last couple years and have come to many of the same conclusions, this is a great confirmation.

    • Your witness is very encouraging, Chad. I understand the muddle, fog and wrestling that often goes on with this issue. We as people seem to be so reactionary. we go from worshipping the ground men/leaders walk on to “I don’t need anyone other than Jesus in my life.” There is a healthy middle ground.

  4. Another great post my friend! Love inspired leadership. I appreciate you addressing the ditch on both sides – the business model / heavy handed, etc. vs. no leadership. No life in either ditch. Good stuff!

  5. Great post. I’m reading a book on WWII and my favorite figure from the war (Patton) keeps showing up. It’s gotten me to think a bit on putting calling and opportunity in a greater context. Patton is definitely someone who would be called a “leader” in our culture. I think one key characteristic of leadership both in culture and in the kingdom relates to simply being willing to do it first, especially when those around you don’t see, understand or relate.

    To be the one to take the step.

    In culture this is often done selfishly- ” look at me, I’m the first to __X__ don’t you want to follow me”. It’s the perversion that launched a thousand late-night infomercials.

    In the kingdom though, it’s the anointing that allows some possibly see the consequences, the risks, the need and take the step anyway because it is a step closer to Christ.

  6. with leadership [a noun; the leaders of an organization, the state or position of leader] being more transient in Kingdom reality, the language seems to be falling back from use, noticeably in favor of “guide”, “lead”, “advancing with”… It is the closing gap we are perceiving by the Spirit between early ekklesia αγο — to go (with), and “to bring the ones he/she serves to fullness of destiny”.

    • Stephen, I would like to give you a plug in the book that you wrote, “Authority, Accountability, and the Apostolic Movement” of which I’m presently reading. I just covered some of this material today. What can I say? Let the book speak for itself. It’s good stuff.

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