Relationships: Winners and Losers?

MP900316768Relationship is a hot buzzword these days. It’s easy to agree with rhetorically, much harder to enter into experientially, because there is a real cost for real relationship. When dogma (“accepted” theological opinion), ego, position, organizational reputation, and most of all assets (cash, buildings, properties) have to be defended, it is not possible to have an open relationship in transparency. That’s because without an inner work of freeing grace, when someone has something to lose in associating with you, they will sacrifice you and their relationship with you first rather than give up these other things that they are emotionally, psychologically, and financially invested in. Christ has come to set us free from all of it so we can be free to love one another without other encroaching agendas.

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7 comments on “Relationships: Winners and Losers?

  1. A big buzz-phrase in the business world these days is “Win-Win”. However, I have come to realize that not everything in real relationships is always “Win-Win” Of course, there are times when we need to compromise, but if we are not willing to lose something of ourself, die to ourself, and take up our cross, we are really still in it for ourselves. The question should be, What are we willing to lose for the sake of others, not how can we both win here. When Jesus said, “He who seeks to save his life will lose it, but he who loses his life for my sake will find it” was really saying. “When you lose, you win”. That doesn’t mean we allow others to walk all over us and put up no boundaries – but it does mean we are willing to go out of our comfort zone and die to self for the sake of others.

    Of course, as you said in the post, all of this sounds fine theoretically, but much harder to put into practice experientially.

  2. Steve, wishing you were nearby to hold an all day emergency seminar on relationships. Have had an incredibly stressful and rewarding week. Could talk an hour or two on things just on this week. Can’t attempt to convey it here. Keep the faucet turned on. Living water refreshing others is coming out.

  3. That’s because without an inner work of freeing grace, when someone has something to lose in associating with you, they will sacrifice you and their relationship with you first rather than give up these other things that they are emotionally, psychologically, and financially invested in. Christ has come to set us free from all of it so we can be free to love one another without other encroaching agendas. This is very true on a daily basis Stephen. The Grace we so tell our selves and every one else has to be the real Deal in our inner lives….continually. I have in my experience met so many believers who go along so far as long as it does not displace or infringe upon them their ideals and programs. Leaders are indeed vunerable to the constant temptations to defend their position and end up sacrificing those very first fruits – gifts that God entrusted. This freedom that Jesus Purchased by his own Blood on the cross has for many still not come to the ” Enlightment ” of his Spirit and the exposure to his pure Word. Great Blog Stephen…keep up the Good Word.

  4. Relationship is at the heart of God’s design for Christianity. Unfortunately, we have traded the opportunity for true relationship with God and others for a false Christianity that costs us nothing personally and is easy to manipulate to our liking. Until there are actually “Christians” who are willing to live and love one another sacrifically like Jesus said, this world remains full of darkness and despair. Any takers?

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