We do not need to pray about that which God has made explicitly clear in his revealed Word! This is hardly hot news to most of you. However, this principle is regularly violated and abused by many well-meaning believers, some not so well-meaning.  

It is inappropriate to pray, when God is asking for responsive obedience.  I regularly interact with Christians who use a pseudo-spiritual cloak of prayer to cover impenitent self-will, rebellion, disobedience, and fear of the unknown or what they cannot control and manage. Fearful controllers will always leverage “we need to pray more” to their advantage. It is a particular plague among “prophetic” believers.  By that I mean Christians who believe, as I do, that the voice of God can still be heard and discerned in the redeemed human spirit. The closed canon does not render God a mute.

Believers often engage in a manipulative spirit when they say,  “I have prayed about it and the Lord told me I must .  . .” This is not the language of mutual respect and dialog.  It is the language of spiritual ultimatum—spiritual blackmail.  It is impossible to interact with people who use this type of language, without stepping all over their prayer life and self-perceived spirituality. How can you or I compete with God? How can you or I give any input to people who believe the Almighty has definitively spoken to them? You can’t reach a soul that is locked down with “God told me.”

It is common charismatic lingo used to keep others at a comfortable distance and to justify whatever notion may pop into our heads to do. You do not need to pray about whether or not you should abandon your wife, cheat on our taxes, have an affair, or other such nonsense. The answer is NO! Quit praying!

You might say, Steve, don’t be so silly, this is obvious. Well, let me briefly rehearse two true stories so I can convince you that this is not silly, nor always obvious, but rather an epidemic problem.

I once had to deal with a situation where a wife and mother of eight children was caught fornicating with her boss. Not rumor . . . in the act. She was the wife of an elder in another  church. When confronted, her response was: “Well, I’ve prayed about it, and I was trying to lead him to the Lord!”  Yes, indeedeeee folks, fornicating for Jesus. That’s some evangelism technique. She was deadly serious, and this was not some “new convert” who fell off the turnip truck yesterday.

I was once in a “city-wide pastors unity meeting” (yuck) of all the so-called “gate-keepers” (yuck) of the city. An older gentleman there began to share that he felt a call to a certain city, but that his wife did not want to go. He “prayed about it” and “felt” he was to leave his wife and “fulfill his calling” as the calling is the most important thing. Every leader in the room justified the man, encouraged him, except myself and one other brother (We were accused of being negative, judgmental and elitists.). Oh, and by the way, the wife of this man was a wheelchair bound invalid on oxygen. Well, with the “endorsement” of the stone-blind “gatekeepers of the city,” he left his wife and “started his ministry,” with the obvious results of disaster. His marriage and his ministry failed . . . well, as Gomer Pyle used to say: “Suhprise, suhprise, suhprise . . .”

These are not isolated incidents. Folks, you may have no idea of the sheer corruption and nonsense that goes on behind closed doors at “leadership levels.” Reason among many that the way we have been conducting ourselves regarding “leadership” needs a complete overhaul.

You don’t need to pray about some things. The answer is NO! And if the so-called “city gate keepers” are that stone-blind and ignorant . . . what does that say about all our pretention to spiritual significance, “cutting edge” this and that, and spiritual “gate keepers?” What a pile of excrement.

Praying to God for hours to bring “revival,” save souls, or whatever we may want Him to do on our behalf, is useless if He is requiring repentance and reconciliation. This is particularly true concerning interpersonal relationships. It is easier to talk and pray about unity and revival than to get real and deal with the  breaches in relationship that prevent unity in the first place!  Most American Christians simply do not have the stomach for the hard work required for biblical interpersonal reality.  They will leave a church rather than resolve relational difficulties. (Of course, they will pray for unity and revival at the next church they bless with their presence!).

An individual undergoing a crucifixion experience, is not helped by the prayers of others for blessing and escape. Believers with an unsanctified mercy or compassion gift frequently err in this regard. Sentimental prayer based on human analysis of circumstances and a soulish desire to spare people from difficulty, often runs counter to God’s redemptive purposes. We must always pray in wisdom with a God-perspective.  If we do not know how to pray, well, that’s what the indwelling Holy Spirit is for—get to know Him and let Him pray through you.

Endless prayer over the same issue or pending action, can be a cloak for unbelief, passivity, fear, timidity, and faithlessness.  When God is calling for faith action, it is inappropriate to keep praying.  ACT don’t PRAY! 

Moses at the Red Sea is a classic scriptural example. When faced with an impossibility, he cried out to God.  God reproved him for his prayer and exhorted him to use what was in his hand.  Moses’s rod can represent many things: authority, the anointing, etc. Simply, it represents what has already been provided and what has proven effective.  For the believer, this is the Word of God, the indwelling Spirit, our union with Him and with one another, and our confidence as His sons and daughters. 

Vacillation and indecisiveness are not fruits of the Spirit—better to be bold and decisive and have to compensate for mistakes, than to be immobile and right too late!  No decision is a decision.  God’s admonition to Joshua wasn’t “be cautious and be careful,” but rather “be bold and be strong.” Individuals who insist on “more prayer” may be yielding to a human (or demonic) spirit that requires absolute assurance in every detail before stepping out in faith.  This is a religious manifestation of a perfectionistic,  emasculated spirit, not godly virtue. The way of faith always encompasses a degree of uncertainty and risk.

Many in the ekklesia, for whatever reason, are severely damaged in this area.  Change, risk, and abandonment to God are more than they can emotionally,  spiritually, psychologically, and sometimes culturally handle. When confronted with a faith response requirement that affects them personally, they can suffer near personality disintegration. These dear individuals simply must get help, healing, and deliverance, either sovereignly from God or mediated through competent ministry.

Pragmatism often masquerades in the ekklesia as wisdom. Many believers’ minds are deeply impregnated with worldly and culturally conditioned concepts of wisdom, prudence, and caution that impersonate godly virtues.  The world’s wisdom is devilish, and inordinate caution is the protective mantra of the fearful.   

Godly wisdom and faith are two valid biblical virtues maintained in tension by divine design.  They are like a kite and string: wisdom is the string that enables the kite of faith to arise and stay in a proper sphere.  The kite of faith keeps the string of wisdom from being earth-bound. Healthy Christianity requires both.

However, the overall tenor of the New Testament is that faith is the superior and eternal virtue. Faith is the short-supply commodity the Lord seeks in his people and in the earth.  If we must err, err to the side of bold faith–it is what the Lord is looking for.

Inappropriate prayer is simply a manifestation of the carnal mind in rebellion against God, masquerading in religious garb.  The in-working of the cross  and the gift of the indwelling Holy Spirit are God’s provision and remedy. The disciples asked the Lord to teach them to pray (Lk. 11:1-13).  He promised that the Father would give the Holy Spirit to that very end, if we persist in asking for Him. We have the same confidence and more because the Teacher and the Spirit of prayer is now within us,  forever, to the end of the age.

Let’s stop the nonsense. Lets can the hyper-spiritual lingo. Let’s be real people and let’s not cloak our disobedience with prayer.

Copyright 2012,  Dr. Stephen R. Crosby, www.swordofthekingdom.com. Permission is granted to copy, forward, or distribute this article for non-commercial use only, as long as this copyright byline, in totality, is maintained in all duplications, copies, and link references.  For reprint permission for any commercial use, in any form of media, please contact stephcros9@aol.com.


25 comments on “QUIT PRAYING!

  1. His grace abounds through you, my brother! A key facet of maturity in the believer is accepting the responsibility of immediate obedience. Delayed obedience simply reveals the rebellion that remains in our heart against Father’s authority and hinders Father’s business from being accomplished. In being a mature son, being led by the Spirit does not mean negotiating terms for our obedience!

    Love you, my brother. Keep declaring Truth! Peace!

  2. Hi Steve I think “Spiritual global warming” has taken place and that which was “hot” twenty yrs ago sadly fits right in with the present climate of religious waters.

  3. Do you think the religious machine perpetuates the fear aspect of stepping out in faith? It was drilled into us to make sure you “don’t miss God” and miss His will for you or you may produce an “Ishmael”. Thinking for yourself was not encouraged which produced a dependency on the leadership-which I believe was the leadership’s goal-the “Nanny hierarchy”. I know folks that are so afraid of missing God’s will that years later are still in limbo, doing nothing, still waiting on God to reveal His perfect will and destiny to them.
    Then, on the flip-side, there are the hyper Charismatics I know that see the silliest things as a “sign” from the Lord to do things, often being a pretense to do what they wanted to do anyway and the supposed “sign” sealed the deal.
    Balance and wisdom is surely in short supply. All the more reason for this timely word you’ve given here. Thanks,and keep ’em coming.

    • Hi Jeanne, to me there is no doubt that the religious machine/nanny hierarchy (well said . . . I will hijack that from you some day!) does not help or facilitate confident, initiative taking faith. Because most religious machines are dominated by “pastors” whose primary concerns are “safety and well-being”, (nanny-ism) they are often more concerned that nothing goes wrong, causes trouble, uncomfortableness, unease, etc. . . . . well the kingdom doesn’t work that way. The religious machine does. An imbalanced ministry expression will always yield imbalanced results . . . . pastors can never bring people to maturity . . . alone.

  4. Thanks for so clearly describing what can happen when we let religion blind us, it does lead to deception and manipulation, etc. Relationship with the Lord and real authority is so different – appreciate your no nonsense post, that calls it as is.
    This type of behavior not only blinds, but it separates believers unto themselves instead of discovering the wonderful balance of divine dependance we have together in the Lord – as we grow together in love.

  5. Thanks for the clear and no nonsense post. So many get blinded by walking in religion. When this type of deceptive and manipulative behavior happens it actually prevents the wonderful balance of divine dependance the Lord wants in His body, where we are supposed to be growing together unto Him in love.

  6. Good article. Speak louder as we need to grow up.
    Thankfully the whole church isn’t as stupid as some of those you’ve met (we’ve all met them), but too many have stopped questioning only to sit like fat chicks with open mouths.

  7. Steve – what would be your personal/biblical guidelines you have learned for discerning the leading of the spirit? Obviously, there are black/white sin issues like the ones you mentioned – but how do you determine the gray areas – like what church to attend, what Job to take, how to handle a relational difficulty, etc?

  8. Kris Kristofferson penned a song several decades ago, a tribute to & after meeting [a step a way from dying] Johnny Cash. Called: “To Beat The Devil” Actually, a great song with some insightful lyrics. Google it if you wish and it might surprise you how insightful. Will borrow from the song
    one that best sums up my response to you; “you’ve been reading my mail”
    Much thanks for keeping us on course, to beat the devil. A defeated foe.

  9. After reading this article, which you have written in N.C prayer. I examine the issue by relating to my son and daughter. Both my Son and Daughter only have to ask to go outside once. They don’t have to keep asking as they move closer to the door. Why would we expect anything different with our Father. We ask him only once and go for it. My family and I are living this right now. Most of my close friends could not understand why, we would sell all and venture out while I had security in a job. I had to tell some what they wanted to hear, because they were questioning whether it was truly the “will” of God. Others I simply said, to remain where I am and not go through the door of faith would bring about death in me. I had to do it, because I am the will of God and He goes wherever I go. And we are moving forward in Faith and trust, which is making our relationships stronger and is broadening our spoke of knowing Christ. Thanks as always for sharing the Truth and pointing us to Christ. Love ya.

    • Hi Mick . . . you’ve got it! Exactly! Everything in the kingdom is relational . . . prayer . . . will of God . . . everything, and that is where we start . . . our sonship . . . faith = relational trust, not philosophical agreement to a proposition from the Bible. Love to you and yours.

  10. Hi Steve! I LOVE that you support our call to actionable faith – just as Jesus did. Getting excited that you’re coming this way…This Tuesday night I am taking a break from our bible study on David to read, review, and talk about 2 of your recent blogs…thanks for the insights and guidance, and also for the great subject matter you’ve been addressing lately! I love that not only do you not fear attacking these areas but that you teach that our true growth comes from addressing these tensions in our lives! See you soon 🙂 If you’re not overbooked there’s a steak dinner waiting for you at our place!

  11. Steve you have nailed it again, my friend! How dare we use something as sacred, and intimate and powerful as prayer for our own selfcentred carnal purposes. How dare we treat the grace of God with such contempt – and yet we do. Thanks Steve for declaring truth – anyone with even an ounce of discernment will be able to see that this is not written out of a heart to judge, but out of a heart of love – a deep deep love for Jesus’ Church….and He want it back!

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